Anger is a strong emotion that tends to only truly hurt the Self. We human beings, seem to hold onto this pain in order to seek justice and sympathy for what we deem to be the inappropriate actions of another. Yet anger is not an effective resolution to this perceived problem. It simply stores and compartmentalizes pain until it explodes, often in an unflattering manner.
I just recently identified anger within the Self as my disappointment for specific choices I had made. I felt that I had compromised my morals and universal values. These bad choices led to an awakening of anger connected to my past. So, I sat with the anger - fully acknowledging its presence without initially judging it to be right or wrong. But then later addressing this emotion, I honored it by allowing it to be seen, understood and ultimately accepted for it for what it was. Then, by recognizing what it was, I was able to release it by seeing through the blinders I had previously placed over my pain and then move forward slowly with a grateful heart.
So, I sat with the anger - fully acknowledging
its presence without initially judging it to be right or wrong.
Anger with another is actually anger with the Self. This concept can take time to comprehend, especially when it comes to heartbreak. However, it is only when the reason for the anger is fully embraced and understood that the heart can be set free. It is important, therefore, to always remember that everyone does not see things the same way. Each of our understandings and lessons in this life are received differently. But when we dedicate ourselves to our inner growth work we tend to find universal compassion for all.
Anger with another is actually anger with the Self.
Therefore, my unsolicited advice to you: detach yourself from unhealthy emotions by fully embracing and understanding them. Sit with your pain, honor it, understand it, accept it and then let it go. You deserve to be free from the undeserved chains of your past.
“For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind.”
- Ralph Waldo Emerson