It Takes Two To Change

Every single person is brought into your life for a purpose, which may be greater that you at first realize and that sometimes takes a while to understand and embrace. The wonderful saying, “People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime,” has been my motto for as long as I can remember. Throughout my life I have parted ways with individuals for various reasons. Sometimes I felt that certain relationships had served their purpose and no longer served my soul. This wasn't always the easiest decision for me to make, but at the end of the day, I had to do what is best for me. The demise and transition out of a relationship (i.e. friendships, family ties, significant others, etc.) was never easy and often ended with heartache on both ends. However, the parting of ways was necessary for everyone involved. With every person you meet you have the opportunity to learn something new but this does not guarantee that the parties involved will be open to the lessons presented.

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.

In order for change and inner growth to take place through one’s life lessons, both individuals involved in a relationship must be open to the realization that each of us plays a role for the other. It is important for one to understand that one’s journey is already planned out according to their karmic debt but they still have free will. This allows one to make changes along their life path. For two individuals to learn from one another, they both have to be willing to acknowledge, understand and be open to the lessons at hand. In other words, if one person is willing to work through their lessons and the other is not, then a great deal of friction will occur, which will simply begin to pull both parties apart. This separation can occur mentally, physically and/or spiritually.

Here is where each of us need to be conscious of the truth behind our separations: Are we parting ways for our Soul or for our ego? Our Soul understands the growth that needs to take place and also knows when it is time to depart. Our ego doesn’t want to do the work we need to grow because it insists we are great just the way we are and goes straight to a “fuck it” attitude while running in the opposite direction.

Our Soul understands the growth that needs to take place

and also knows when it is time to depart.

Change can be very difficult, especially when we have been practicing a certain way of life for many years. However, change is also unavoidable whether it’s with a current relationship, the next or even the next lifetime. At the end of the day, it’s totally your choice as to how you want to proceed. We have to be brutally honest with ourselves in order to discover the areas of our lives that need a little extra work (thought and energy) in order to create a beautiful life.

Every moment spent with another is an opportunity to learn a lot about the Self, as well as being sensitive to the other’s choices. People aren’t always going to be ready for the lessons provided by the Universe and this is something that each of us must accept. As long as we are making choices for our Soul and not our ego, I believe, we are going to be all good in the hood.

Always grateful,

Alisha xoxo

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